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| The impact of white lies on interpersonal relationships |
| QIU Fangling, YU Lin |
| Center for Mental Health Education, Southwest University, Chongqing 400715 |
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Abstract As a special kind of lie, white lie is both altruistic and deceptive. It often triggers moral conflicts and can be seen everywhere in daily life. It has a non-negligible impact on interpersonal communication. An in-depth understanding of the impact of white lie on interpersonal relationships helps people treat white lie correctly and use white lie to deal with events in life and work. However, the current domestic research on white lie is mostly about the developmental characteristics of children's white lie and its influencing factors. There are few studies on adults and the research on the content of white lie is relatively simple. Therefore, the purpose of this article is to systematically summarize the impact of white lie on interpersonal relationships in adult groups, in order to give scholars some inspiration, so as to expand the age range and content of white lie research, and promote the further development of white lie research.
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